viernes, 20 de enero de 2017

10 Reasons Why You Should Move to Another City in Your 20s

I'm pretty excited to announce that I will move to Mexico City this February 1st officially. Did I hear a yay? Yay! It took me over a month to make this decision and I'm happy with it. To make the final decision I had to look at the pros and cons . At the beginning I was going to share with you guys some home designs I made in Polyvore (which  I personally adore to create when I have some style ideas), but then I thought maybe some of you have asked yourselves if you should take a chance and move to another city and are not sure why, so I'm here to share with you the why you should do it if you're hesitating.
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1. Feel Good with Yourself
I don't know about you, but I've never felt so 'me' than when I get to another place away from my city. I never noticed how comfortable I was with myself until a friend and I were skyping when I was on a summer internship in Québec and he told me "You look so beautiful, I don't know if it's because you're in Canada, but you look more beautiful every single day" and when I told my mom, she told me "well, you're happy", and yes I am! So trust me, you'll get to know yourself better and you'll be so happy with who you are.

2. Independence
We all want this, don't we? Being away from our parents, so we can do whatever we feel like. Independence for me was having ice cream or even a glass of wine for breakfast. By being independent is depending on you. You make your own choices and you need courage for it. It is not that easy to look upon yourself. You wake up, you make your bed, you make your own breakfast and you have to make everything by yourself for the first time. Laundry day is still my less favorite. Ugh! Can't mamma help me out on this one? But hey! At the end of the day you're happy to know that you can finally rely on you.

3. Lifetime Experience
People use to ask me why would I want to move to another city if I have my parents here, I can get a job easily and I have pretty much my life solved here, so why do it? The answer for me always is "for the experience". Our lives are based on experiences and you'll regret everything you don't do at the end, so please just do it! For me, coming from a small city, going to the capital is everything! You can do everything, you never get bored and there's always something new to try.
 
4. Young and Free
Think about it, no one depends on you so far. It's me myself and I, literally. And for what I've heard if I don't do it now I probably won't do it ever. For when I get to my 30s I'll probably have a fiancé or I'll be already married and thinking about children (Hopefully, right?) It's the best age to just move out and try some place new!
 
5. Get to Know What's Out There
If you come from a small city as I do you'll understand. And this always reminds me of the "Belle" song when she says "There must be more than this provincial life!" (Disney fan) Yes, yes! There's so much more! Once you've lived outside of your small town you'll never want to come back. So many beautiful places, and different people, open minded and you'll see a whole future in front of your eyes out there.
 
6. Fresh start
Why fresh start matters? You can finally get rid of those labels. I don't know about you, but here I feel like I can be no longer myself. People change, I've changed and I need to set free. Wether it's our personal lives or work, we sometimes need to close that chapter and start a new one. I hate to be judged and this is a new opportunity to show them who you truly are: A whole new you.
 
7. Job Opportunities
In my personal experience, this is why I'm truly moving to Mexico City. Sincé I live in a small city there are not many job opportunities, the biggest enterprises and great job opportunities are in the city. My big sister use to tell me "you can't imagine how cool it is to work there, it's a whole new world!" and I'm quite excited to experience it. 
 
8. Value what you have
So yeah, everything's great the first months, but then you'll miss your parents when it's a holiday and you won't be able to make it home. Or when they tell you funny stories and that "you should've seen it!" Let's face it, sometimes you need mom and dad. And let's not talk about the fridge, don't even get me started, you'll miss your parents' fridge. But hey, you'll be quite happy when you get to see them and that'll be sooner than you expect. We have to move out of our parents' home at some point, don't we?  
 
9. Move out of your comfort zone
You'll have to do everything by yourself, make your bed, laundry, clean up your appartment, cook your own meals and go to the supermarket when you run out of something. But it gets easier with time and you'll enjoy it at the end. (But not laundry day, I hate laundry day)
 
10. Make New Friends
Okay, so probably you have tons of friends already, but then if it's not to make more friends (which you will), what about your network? Widen your network, you'll need it with time, and your 20s are great to widen it, the best job opportunities are not promoted on job boards. It's a whole new experience, trust me.

Now I have to be honest, I felt the whole time like I was trying to convince myself to just do it. And yes, I'm more convinced now and excited for this whole new experience. This is going to be great and I have to confess it's going to be easier for me because I'm moving in with one of my sisters and my brother in law. I encourage you to do it if you are hesitating, what if you're wrong? You can always come back to your city, but as we say: Better an oops thaan a what if!   
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miércoles, 11 de enero de 2017

8 Propósitos para este 2017 que Realmente Marcan la Diferencia

El otro día me estaba preguntando por qué no decidí fijarme propósitos este 2017 y la respuesta vino pronto a mí "ah sí, porque casi nunca logro cumplirlas". Quiero creer que no soy la única a la que le pasa esto, leí un artículo que afirma que tan solo el 8% de la gente cumple sus propósitos de Año Nuevo. Sin darme cuenta con tanto cambio esta semana comencé a proponerme cosas para este 2017 y pensé en compartirles a lo que llegué.

1. Cree en ti misma
No hay nada más importante para automotivarte que creer en ti misma, en serio créanme cuando les digo que esto marca la diferencia. El realmente llegar a creer en ti misma es conocerte, saber qué quieres y quién eres. Conocerte te da seguridad y te abre nuevas puertas. Intenta autoconocerte, saber hasta dónde puedes llegar con tus habilidades y mantente en constante desarrollo. Una persona que se conoce a si misma no tiene límites, a partir de ahí no te queda de otra más que crecer.

2. Perdona y perdónate
Yo soy una persona que le gusta platicar las cosas, no soy de las que se esconde o hace como que nada pasa. Tengo una gran necesidad de cerrar ciclos, no hay nada más frustrante que nunca resolverte a ti misma ni alguna situación con otra persona. No soy de rencores, me gusta resolver los asuntos y dejar ir. Este 2017 te invito a que dejes ir todo aquello que no te deja nada positivo en tu vida, muchas veces no tenemos la oportunidad de cerrar ciclos con alguna persona o situación y para estas ocasiones lo que a mí me ha servido es escribir. Escribo una carta donde dejo salir todas mis emociones, le doy sentido a mis pensamientos pero sobretodo perdono todo. No hay nada más agotador que no perdonarse uno mismo, resuélvete, dale sentido a tus pensamientos y perdona todo aquello que nunca has podido dejar ir. Es un nuevo año y es un buen momento para empezar a vivir sin rencores.


3. Deja ir a las personas que no te hacen bien
Sé que es más fácil decirlo que hacerlo pero considero que este punto es crucial para tener una vida sana. Muchos tenemos varias amistades que sabemos que no nos hacen bien o no nos dejan nada positivo en nuestras vidas. Deja ir a todas aquellas amistades que te impiden tener una vida sana, aquellas que te controlan, que te cortan las alas y no te dejan creer en ti misma. Necesitamos más personas en nuestras vidas que nos hagan bien, que nos den energía al estar a nuestro alrededor en vez de quitárnosla. Concéntrate en aquellas amistades que sabes que te hacen bien, estos son los que valen la pena.

4. Aprende a decir no
Suena sencillo pero antes era algo que yo no sabía hacer, muchas veces no tenía ganas de ir a algún compromiso pero mi mamá me repetía que tenía que ir porque si no ya nunca me iban a invitar, cuando esto es una mentira. Aprende a decir no a compromisos de los que no tengas ganas, quédate en casa if you feel like it. Consiéntete, sé feliz y haz lo que te gusta.


5. Aprende a decir sí
Sé que se contradice pero es importante tener un equilibrio, date la oportunidad de intentar cosas nuevas, di que sí a todo eso que te da miedo que te saca de tu zona de confort y ¡disfruta! Yo me he llevado muchas sorpresas y todas han sido buenas, al final del día agradezco haberme dado la oportunidad. Atrévete a cosas nuevas, haz maletas si es necesario.

6. Duerme sin el celular
Suena un poco complicado pero en serio hace la diferencia. Cuando empecé a ir con mi terapeuta lo primero que me dijo fue "te hace falta dormir". Comencé a cerrar las persianas y el celular lo alejaba lo más que podía porque antes dormía con él debajo de la almohada y créanme que realmente descanso. Inténtenlo un día y notarán la diferencia.


7. No te compares con los demás
Ese es un gran error que muchos cometemos que nos hacen sentir menos y que nos ocasionan estrés innecesario. Ve a tu propio paso, haz tus propios logros, disfrútalos, trabaja en ti y crece a tu propio ritmo, no somos mejor que nadie y nadie es mejor que nosotros, simplemente somos diferentes y aprende a reconocer los logros de los demás.

8. Deja de preocuparte tanto por el futuro
No saben el tiempo que he perdido pensando en lo que me depara el futuro y créanme que no se ha cumplido mucho de lo que planee, han sucedido cosas mejores que muchas veces estas oportunidades se presentaron al momento. Deja de preocuparte tanto por el futuro y aprende a vivir en el presente, prepárate para el futuro sin dejar de lado tu presente. ¡Disfruta hoy!  

Sé que son propósitos sencillos pero realmente van a hacer la diferencia en mi vida. Estoy lista para todo lo que se me presente este año y agradecida de todo lo que he vivido. Les deseo lo mejor este 2017 y espero les sea de ayuda o inspiración estos propósitos. 
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jueves, 5 de enero de 2017

Orgullo y Prejuicio Familiar


El otro día discutía con otra persona un evento desafortunado por el que probablemente todas las parejas pasan: el encajar en la familia. No es una tarea fácil, toma tiempo y muchos desacuerdos. La primer pregunta que viene a la mente de tu pareja podría ser: ¿Estoy en una relación contigo o con tu familia?, y para una persona tan unida a su familia como yo la respuesta es 'si me quieres a mí, vengo con el paquete completo'.
 
 
Es muy común que al presentar a tu pareja dentro de la familia, los miembros de esta comiencen a opinar de acuerdo a los detalles que ven en tu pareja. Si te agarra mucho de la mano, si te contestó de una manera grosera, si alza la voz dentro de tu familia, si hace comentarios inapropiados e inclusive si se ríe de algo que para los miembros de la familia no es gracioso puede llegar a ser causa de un prejuicio.
 
Prejuicio 
 
m. Juicio u opinión que se tiene de una cosa o persona antes de conocerla y que se manifiesta en forma de simpatía o antipatía frente a ellas.

Primero que nada algo que me gustaría aclarar es que no se trata de que esa persona tenga que cambiar su forma de ser para poder integrarse a la familia, ni mucho menos esperar que sea un 'queda bien'. Es el simple hecho de tener que ceder en ciertos puntos; uno como factor externo no puede esperar llegar y cambiar la dinámica familiar de un día para otro. Antes de contestar de una manera grosera ante algo que no le parece tiene que preguntarse: '¿realmente vale la pena entrar en esta discusión por mi simple orgullo?' o '¿de qué manera puedo reaccionar ante esto que me molesta de una manera diplomática?'
 
Una explicación que me compartió mi padre ante situaciones como esta fue la siguiente:
 
Uno no puede llegar a un cuarto escuchando banda donde se está bailando cha cha cha y esperar que todos bailen banda. Él tiene que bailar cha cha cha.
 
Es cierto que no existe una verdad absoluta, existen muchas alternativas a esta suposición y la que considero menos "inteligente" es reaccionar de una manera violenta. No es necesario que baile cha cha cha, sino hablar de aquellos temas que no le parecen y de manera diplomática llegar a acuerdos. Después de todo se tiene que adaptar a la dinámica familiar, buscar ceder en ciertos aspectos y adaptarse a la situación.
 
Tolerancia
 
f. Disposición a admitir en los demás una manera de ser, obrar o pensar distinta de la propia.
 
La tolerancia parte de la idea de que no existe una verdad absoluta y es una de las partes más difíciles de entender.
 
 
“Existe una clara evidencia de que las personas emocionalmente desarrolladas, es decir, las personas que gobiernan adecuadamente sus sentimientos, y asimismo saben interpretar y relacionarse efectivamente con los sentimientos de los demás, disfrutan de una situación ventajosa en todos los dominios de la vida, desde el noviazgo y las relaciones íntimas hasta la comprensión de las reglas tácitas que gobiernan el éxito en el seno de una organización.”
 
- Daniel Goleman


Considero que es una frase importante del psicólogo mencionado anteriormente para ejemplificar la importancia de aceptar las distintas opiniones de los demás y saber reaccionar ante aquello que a uno no le parece. Solo con el tiempo podemos llegar a ser más tolerantes y poco a poco con la convivencia e involucramiento de tu pareja con la familia se podrá llegar a un ambiente armonioso.
 
Gran parte de la solución para enfrentar esta situación es que tu pareja esté de acuerdo y dispuesto de conocer a tu familia, entender la dinámica familiar, ceder en ciertos aspectos en un principio y con el tiempo ir llegando a acuerdos, platicar ciertos aspectos que no le parece, pero sobretodo dependerá de cómo vean que te comportas en cuanto a tu pareja, si te ven feliz y segura de tu relación ya que eso transmitirá mucho más en tu familia de lo que vean en él.
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domingo, 7 de agosto de 2016

50 Things That Make Me Happy

Let me be honest, this post is going to be too personal so please I ask for your total discretion and non-judgemental opinion (if that even exists). I've always suffer from anxiety and depression and never done anything to overcome it. I have my ups and downs as everyone that shares this feeling and I just wait for that down to pass so I can move on with my life. It's been hard, I've lost friends on the path, I've even come the person I didn't want to be, and let's not talk about the times I made a fool out of me and my nights lost in alcohol.  

It was not until my mum decided to face it and talked to me that we decided it was time to do something about it. It's been a week now that I started my treatment and I feel a little bit better. I understand is a slow process, specially since I have this issue for a while now -years to be honest-.

Anyhow, so I wanted to give this little background so you could understand and appreciate this post as I did. I was cleaning my mail when I noticed I had an unopened mail from DiagonSally, I realized she actually answered! I asked her 4 months ago if I could write a post just like hers because I really loved the activity, it's called 50 Things That Make Me Happy -as you can see- and she let me do it! On the message she told me it's a perfect post for when you're feeling a little down and I couldn't think of a better time to write it than these days that I've decided to change who I am.

1. Stargazing
2. A good book - The Pillars of the Earth is my all time favourite! -
3. Spending time with my family
4. Weekendtrips
5. Flowers - Wanna know a secret? I've never received a bouquet of flowers -
6. A warm cup of tea
7. Sunsets
8. Making others smile
9. A good talk with a stranger
10. Having mom-daughter time 
11. Breakfast dates - Is that still a thing? Cause I'm up for it -
12. Wearing a cute dress
13. Horror movies with mum
14. Traveling
15. Playing video games with my sister
16. Looking up for wedding dresses on the Internet
17. Hiking
18. Singing along in the car
19. Kisses on the forehead
20. Watching TV shows with my parents every single night
21. Dancing like no one's watching
22. Staying in bed on rainy days
23. Selfies
24. Quality time with my sisters
25. Crème Brûlée - my favourite dessert -
26. Changing my look - I don't do it quite often, but I feel good when I do something different to my hair -
27. Blogging
28. Riding with no particular destination
29. Spending quality time with my cats
30. Trying out typical food from other places
31. The sense I get after washing my face
32. Polar bears
33. Post-its
34. Ice cream 
35. Inspirational quotes
36. Pretty notebooks and agendas
37. Snow - I've never seen snow in my entire life, but only the idea of it makes me happy -
38. Nature
39. Incense
40. Wind in my face
41.Working at home watching Netflix
42. A cold coffee on a hot day
43. Sleeping with my blinds halfway open to wake up with natural light each morning
44. Picnincs
45. Knowing that a good deed has been done - Be kind everyday! -
46. Bubble tea!
47. A good wine with some cheese - Missing France -
48. Rescuing an animal - I've helped birds and homeless kittens! -
49. Getting an scholarship or accomplishing a goal
50. Getting the family together! - My sisters no longer live in the same city -       

Woaaah, finally wrote down those 50 things and it actually took me 4 days, can you believe it? Sometimes is the simple things that you don't notice. I know this is not a challenge, but I recommend you to write this kind of posts if you're feeling a little down. It did help me to notice all those little things that make me quite happy. Hope you all had a great weekend!   

Challenge question!
What are the things that make YOU happy? 
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martes, 2 de agosto de 2016

Tourist in my Country

I know I haven't posted anything for a while now. To be honest I've been quite busy with my internships that I barely have time for myself and when I do I'd rather spend it with my Friends and family. About two weeks ago I went on a weekendtrip to visit a friend I met last summer on my internship in Canada. I'm so glad we saw each other again after a long year. She took me to do some tourism to San Miguel de Allende and Guanajuato and it was amazing. I realized I've made more tourism outside my country that sometimes I forget how wonderful my home country is.


I have to say it, I like better San Mike since the streets are so historical and you can walk anywhere; even though, there's not much to do I did get myself a flower crown and I did try the churros that are quite famous there, I literally had to wait on a queue almost an hour to get a table, but it was worth it.


Although it was only for the weekend it was enough to distract me from my daily life. I'm quite happy as an intern and I've learned a lot these months, but I truly needed a break. What I was quite excited to visit was the mummies of Guanajuato and I finally did it; however, when I was there I was quite disappointed with it to be honest, I was expecting so much more and it was only a small museum. But honestly, if you have the chance you have to go. To be honest if you come to Guanajuato I would recommend you to visit San Miguel de Allende, it's gorgeous and it was considered a "pueblo mágico" which is literally magical village in English, known by its natural beauty, cultural riches and historical relevance on 2002, but unfortunately removed in 2008.
 
Anyway, I truly enjoyed visiting this beautiful city and can't wait to be back. To be honest Mexicans usually think about visiting Europe when on holidays, but Mexico has so much to offer that we should consider it from time to time.
 
Challenge question!
Where did you go this summer?
 
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martes, 28 de junio de 2016

Simons

So the other day I was going through some clothing online websites and I remembered Simons since I introduced it to you some months ago, a year almost to be honest. For those who don't know, Simons is a clothing online store that also has some stores in Ontario, Quebec and Vancouver.
I checked out their spring/summer catalogue and it's just amazing, even if it's for women or men they have the coolest clothing as you can see on the pictures. The prints and parents on the clothing are just amazing for summer, they are fresh and clean.
And my favorite outfit of the catalogue is this amazing overexposed flower dress, she just looks stunning! I can definitely picture myself in this dress all summer long. They might not have the best prices compared to other stores, but to be honest they have some green labels and sustainable efforts that make it worth it, the designs are great and the clothing is light and fresh for the summer heat. 
I remember I ran into this store over and over again at the mall when I was in Sherby last summer, and I remember I looked into the store a couple times just window shopping you know wondering about the brand because to be honest I haven't heard about it back then so I checked it over the Internet and I realized it really has a good position in the market and the products are quite good. 
Challenge question!
Which one's your favorite outfit?
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domingo, 19 de junio de 2016

An Advice From a 21 year-old Girl

I'm a month away from turning 22 and to be honest I'm not excited at all. Time just passes by and I feel like it's slipping through my fingers. Call me lame, but I've never been a fan of my birthday. After spending my Saturday in and complaining a little that I didn't hang out with my friends as I used to, I realized that tonight was great. With time you realize those nights you stay in with your family just watching a movie together, having dinner or even just talking all night long are priceless. Those are the nights you'll miss when in the future

You might read this, laugh and say: "poor 21 y-old girl, you know nothing". But oh well, isn't this the reason why we have endless platforms to express our feelings to the whole wide world without being judged? You might disagree with this or you might think "I feel ya", but no matter what your reaction will be I hope this helps you to rethink certain things. To you all I can say is:     

- Travel, travel a lot, explore the world and learn about other cultures, understand the differences and always take all the good stuff from each place you visit. Embrace life and every single second of it, it's amazing that you've made it so far and you have a bright future ahead.  

- Laugh as much as you can, forget those nights you cried on your own quietly so your parents wouldn't notice. With time you'll realize that was nothing, there's so much more than just that. Let yourself enjoy more and suffer less. Stop wasting your tears on matters that aren't just worth it and keep them for real tragedies and even if you cry (nothing wrong with that) get up. You're allowed to cry, but you're not allowed to give up. 

- Be kind to every single person, be humble and learn about life, about today, about the world. There are so many things going on around the world and being aware of these events gives you an idea of what the world needs. Trust me, this world needs more honest, humble, kind people (if that term even exists).

- Fall in love, and I mean it, fall in love every single day with your family and learn to love your friends because they are the ones that will support you when you most need it. But more importantly, love yourself, stop depending on the others, they will not make you happy, you create your own happiness. And stop watching those stupid romance movies, trust me they just create false hopes. And it's not that I'm a grumpy single lady, but when you find the one you'll know it and even if it's not that fairy tale you always expected you'll love every second by his/her side.  

- Get to know as many people as you can and take the time to listen to them, learn what they like, where they come from and even if you don't become best friends they'll be your future contacts, create your own network because you will stop depending on your parents'.  
  
But overall, learn as much as you can, work hard to do so. And I'm not only talking about school, you will not learn much there, get out of your bed, read, work, get an internship and even if they don't pay you ($$) the experience is priceless. Question everything, it's your time to pop that bubble you live in and get to know about anything really, find that passion of yours. Because for at least 35 years you will work and it rather make you the happiest person on Earth because you'll spend about 40 hours a week, which is a lot if you think about it. Not to mention the extra hours that they don't mention on the interview.

If you actually read until the end of this post, congrats! Sometimes it's hard to read such a long post and I get it, hopefully these tips will help you or at least will give you another point of view. Smile and have a great week!! 

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Would you like more posts like this?
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